Parents still resort to mild physical punishment to vent their powerlessness despite its no effectiveness, but it’s the last resort?
A slap, a scourge are classical terms with negative connotations and that not too many Spanish people have related to the education of their children. Used in a very timely, as a last resort, to clearly mark a limit to a child or teen, a good number of people see it as somewhat effective.
Others, including many educators and psychologists disagree, insist on not criminalize parents who use them (it should be clear that we are not talking about gratuitous violence or serious abuse, including beatings), but categorically reject such behavior as valid or appropriate tool to educate children, first by itself objectionable. If they are justified in the context of the couple, why the children themselves, who are helpless? ". And second, because it works, at least in the long term.
I think not all parents know their children well educated, and the fact that a parent give a slap to his son, does not mean that abuse. Sometimes, they learn in that way, but you can’t always give slaps to your children, only if it’s necessary. In other way I think that only parents can afford it, because other people like for example a teacher musn’t hit a student. I see a big difference in education in the school before and nowadays, because, before teachers spent with students in that subject, were too hard, but actually the opposite happens, and is often the fault of the parents and their children who believe in everything they say and everything that say a teacher doubt it. So I think that has to be a middle ground, neither so rigid nor so good, referring to both parents and teachers, not hit them, or only in cases so they can learn without going over, because it is not the same as a father slapped his son to abuse it, are very different, and abuse is a serious issue that all people must differentiate and try to avoid it.
In my opinion giving a certain slap to a child it´s something good for educate them. I also think that nowadays people are softer that they used to be because of that. They are also ruder and more impolite. That´s because we don´t punish kidss as we useed to do. People in the past were more correct than nowadays that´s why i thinc that hitting a little to a kid it´s a good way to educate them. Let´s think a little... if that used to work why dont we do it know? But don´t take me wrong i don´t mean that you can hit a kid for a stupid thing but you should punish him or hit softly him in order to improve his behaviour.
Well, I agree in some things with Patricia. In my opinion a slap in the correct time is good to the child, but not too much slaps are correct, I mean, some parents think that when they hit their children is with a good reason and may be it's not, others punish them because of an accumulation of ira or in a fit of range, so they haven't punish their children when it was neccesary but they do it when that time has gone and this is not effective. To summarize, I agree with the educators don't hit their students but they should talk with them, is more effective if they "hurt" their hearts or minds instead of hurt their appearance.
In my opinion, Patricia is right, because all you should find a middle ground between the education received by our father to education we are receiving us. Anyway, ever think that hitting a child, no matter how bad it is, is a way to educate, as well as Patricia said at first the blows hurt but not learned. It is a pity however that currently there are cases of this kind, and that's what we avoid.
First of all, I consider that parents and teachers should not hit any children as a corrective method in education.
Both dialogue and communication should be used to persuade.
If you explain one boy what he has done badly, he will surely find out much better than by giving him a slap.
Althoug it is true that there are some children who are very disobedient and disrespectful and some teachers are attempted to beat children in order to keep attention in class.
In conclusion, I think the adults should know more psychology to deal children.
I agree with Patricia, but not at all. I think that a slap at time because of some very important and heavy, would save, in some cases of later problems. But, It’s a reality that in each house, each parents educate their children as well as they think, and somebody think that slaps may be as good as bad, although certainly, we never should abuse and misinterpret the violence. So, we have to try to solve our problems with words before using the hands.
I agree with Patricia in some points because it's true that in some cases a slap at time is a good thing to educate children but maybe it would be a really bad thing. Many parents think that slap their childs it's the better way to educate them, because maybe they were educated in this way but this is not true. I think that for example when your kid is hitting another kid, and you hit his hand and you said to him "no, you shouldn't hit" the kid would understand that he doesn't hit anybody.
I think that a cheek to a child sometimes does not come badly, but a cheek in time, that is to say, when the child has committed a serious mistake. Nonetheless I do not believe either that a cheek is necessary always. I believe that it is much more important than a father speak with his son and I explained to him porqué it must not do it. Not only that it is not necessary to to do but the reason of porqué not.
This is an issue which currently is able to create a lot of discussions due to the diversity of opinions that exist. In my case, I believe that violence is never justified even if a parent tries to punish his son. Children learn from their environment, their school and their families. Therefore, the general education should be based on respect and equality among all people, starting with parents and children.
In my opinon the education of the people in general and specially of the young people is degenerating in an unthinkable way.
Years ago, even centuries, when the society wasn't as advance as it is nowadays, people had more respect for others, and good manners and an apropiate behaviour one of the most important "subjects" at schools.
In any case, I see a big difference between give a slap in any part of the body to a child or to spank a son or a daughter on the bottom(dar un azote en el culo a TU hijo/a) in order to correct a bad or unrespectfull behaviour.
I think that slaps are not the mean to correct any thing only the way to frigten to the children. To correct things we need that the children comprenhens way it is bad to do what they are doing and not slap they because anything they do bad.
Patricia F.:
ReplyDeleteThe cheek hurts, but does not work
Parents still resort to mild physical punishment to vent their powerlessness despite its no effectiveness, but it’s the last resort?
A slap, a scourge are classical terms with negative connotations and that not too many Spanish people have related to the education of their children. Used in a very timely, as a last resort, to clearly mark a limit to a child or teen, a good number of people see it as somewhat effective.
Others, including many educators and psychologists disagree, insist on not criminalize parents who use them (it should be clear that we are not talking about gratuitous violence or serious abuse, including beatings), but categorically reject such behavior as valid or appropriate tool to educate children, first by itself objectionable.
If they are justified in the context of the couple, why the children themselves, who are helpless? ". And second, because it works, at least in the long term.
I think not all parents know their children well educated, and the fact that a parent give a slap to his son, does not mean that abuse. Sometimes, they learn in that way, but you can’t always give slaps to your children, only if it’s necessary. In other way I think that only parents can afford it, because other people like for example a teacher musn’t hit a student.
I see a big difference in education in the school before and nowadays, because, before teachers spent with students in that subject, were too hard, but actually the opposite happens, and is often the fault of the parents and their children who believe in everything they say and everything that say a teacher doubt it.
So I think that has to be a middle ground, neither so rigid nor so good, referring to both parents and teachers, not hit them, or only in cases so they can learn without going over, because it is not the same as a father slapped his son to abuse it, are very different, and abuse is a serious issue that all people must differentiate and try to avoid it.
In my opinion giving a certain slap to a child it´s something good for educate them. I also think that nowadays people are softer that they used to be because of that. They are also ruder and more impolite. That´s because we don´t punish kidss as we useed to do. People in the past were more correct than nowadays that´s why i thinc that hitting a little to a kid it´s a good way to educate them. Let´s think a little... if that used to work why dont we do it know?
ReplyDeleteBut don´t take me wrong i don´t mean that you can hit a kid for a stupid thing but you should punish him or hit softly him in order to improve his behaviour.
Well, I agree in some things with Patricia. In my opinion a slap in the correct time is good to the child, but not too much slaps are correct, I mean, some parents think that when they hit their children is with a good reason and may be it's not, others punish them because of an accumulation of ira or in a fit of range, so they haven't punish their children when it was neccesary but they do it when that time has gone and this is not effective.
ReplyDeleteTo summarize, I agree with the educators don't hit their students but they should talk with them, is more effective if they "hurt" their hearts or minds instead of hurt their appearance.
In my opinion, Patricia is right, because all you should find a middle ground between the education received by our father to education we are receiving us. Anyway, ever think that hitting a child, no matter how bad it is, is a way to educate, as well as Patricia said at first the blows hurt but not learned. It is a pity however that currently there are cases of this kind, and that's what we avoid.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I consider that parents and teachers should not hit any children as a corrective method in education.
ReplyDeleteBoth dialogue and communication should be used to persuade.
If you explain one boy what he has done badly,
he will surely find out much better than by giving him a slap.
Althoug it is true that there are some children who are very disobedient and disrespectful and some teachers are attempted to beat children in order to keep attention in class.
In conclusion, I think the adults should know more psychology to deal children.
ISABEL PÉREZ
I agree with Patricia, but not at all. I think that a slap at time because of some very important and heavy, would save, in some cases of later problems.
ReplyDeleteBut, It’s a reality that in each house, each parents educate their children as well as they think, and somebody think that slaps may be as good as bad, although certainly, we never should abuse and misinterpret the violence.
So, we have to try to solve our problems with words before using the hands.
I agree with Patricia in some points because it's true that in some cases a slap at time is a good thing to educate children but maybe it would be a really bad thing. Many parents think that slap their childs it's the better way to educate them, because maybe they were educated in this way but this is not true. I think that for example when your kid is hitting another kid, and you hit his hand and you said to him "no, you shouldn't hit" the kid would understand that he doesn't hit anybody.
ReplyDeleteI think that a cheek to a child sometimes does not come badly, but a cheek in time, that is to say, when the child has committed a serious mistake. Nonetheless I do not believe either that a cheek is necessary always. I believe that it is much more important than a father speak with his son and I explained to him porqué it must not do it. Not only that it is not necessary to to do but the reason of porqué not.
ReplyDeleteMaría P
ReplyDeleteThis is an issue which currently is able to create a lot of discussions due to the diversity of opinions that exist. In my case, I believe that violence is never justified even if a parent tries to punish his son. Children learn from their environment, their school and their families. Therefore, the general education should be based on respect and equality among all people, starting with parents and children.
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ReplyDeleteActually this one is a complicated topic.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinon the education of the people in general and specially of the young people is degenerating in an unthinkable way.
Years ago, even centuries, when the society wasn't as advance as it is nowadays, people had more respect for others, and good manners and an apropiate behaviour one of the most important "subjects" at schools.
In any case, I see a big difference between give a slap in any part of the body to a child or to spank a son or a daughter on the bottom(dar un azote en el culo a TU hijo/a) in order to correct a bad or unrespectfull behaviour.
Marta V:
ReplyDeleteI agree with Patricia, but not completely.
Recently many young people have no respect for anything or anyone, and may deserve a little slap small.
I think many of us have been a little slap of small (non-aggressively) and this has upset to none.
I think that slaps are not the mean to correct any thing only the way to frigten to the children.
ReplyDeleteTo correct things we need that the children comprenhens way it is bad to do what they are doing and not slap they because anything they do bad.